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Top 10 Ways to Make a Huge Leap Forward in Life

Top 10 Ways to Make a Huge Leap Forward in Life

December 1, 2022

Michael Kohan 

 

Elevate Life Project:  Mindfulness | Spirituality | Success | Personal Growth

 

Podcast: Top 10 Ways to Make a Huge Leap Forward in Life

 

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Top 10 Ways to Make a Huge Leap Forward in Life

 

Everyone has those days when you could use a little help. Perhaps it's not looking forward to your next presentation, or you don't know where to start with your latest business idea.

 

Maybe it's not feeling motivated enough to start that project you've been thinking about for months or find that perfect client. The bottom line is: sometimes we need the right push in life and the right person to give us that nudge.

 

So, what can you do to make that giant leap forward? Try these strategies:

 

  1. Take one step back to move forward. Often, the first thing to do when you need to move forward but feel stuck is to step back. Stop. Avoid trying to force something to happen.

 

  • Then, you can see what needs to be done and break it down into smaller steps. The more you do, the quicker you'll start to feel better and be in a position to take the next step.

 

  1. Monitor your state of mind. When life gives you lemons, it can be hard to see the positive. It's so easy to see the negative situation and feel overwhelmed. Try to stick your head in the sand for a while.

 

  • Try to block out circumstances you can't change and focus on the things you can change. Before long, you'll have a much more positive outlook and will end up making more progress than you ever imagined possible.

 

  1. Identify the details of what's going on. Sometimes we don't realize how many pieces are involved. It's easy to think you're facing one problem when it's a combination of things.

 

  • Be honest with yourself. Which aspects can you change, and what elements can you influence? Also, which parts could you let go?

 

  1. Let the past go. Just because you had a terrible experience in the past with no chance of a positive outcome doesn't mean the past has to define you.

 

  • Embrace the mistake or pain as a chance to learn and grow. Who knows, the negative experience could be the catalyst for future success.

 

  1. Consider your options. Look beyond your current circumstances and examine all the choices and possibilities. Don't get caught up in your present feeling and give up your power. You always have a choice about your next move.

 

  • When you look at all the options at your disposal, you feel hopeful, motivated, and empowered.

 

  1. Devise a plan and stick to it. At this point, you have all the information you need. You've worked to change your mindset, taken a step back, let the past go, and considered your options. Now, it's time to take action.

 

  • Set some goals and realize your dreams. Get out of your way, follow your heart, and seize the moment.

 

  1. Remind yourself of your "why." There's no time like the present. Take advantage of every opportunity that comes your way and most importantly, always remember your core values.

 

  • Remember why you started this journey and what you ultimately want. This attitude will help you stay strong and focused.

 

  1. Start small. Building momentum is crucial to your success. Take small steps each day and gradually build momentum toward your goals.

 

  1. Discard what no longer works, even if it worked in the past. Use past experiences as a guide, but don't be afraid to try something new if it works better.

 

  • Sometimes, people fail because they're scared to let go of the systems that brought them to their current stage. Don't let that happen to you!

 

  1. Always be grateful. Your attitude has a significant impact on your life. Gratitude is the best attitude to have because it takes you away from what you don't want and focuses you on what you do want.

 

  • An example of gratitude is feeling thankful to your parents for all they've done for you. Another is feeling thankful for your health and not being afraid to go to the doctor when you have a health issue.

 

Motivation is not always constant, but you can find your way back to it. All you have to do is relax, take it easy, and consider what you're trying to accomplish.

 

Even when things seem impossible, there's always a chance for you if you have the patience, determination, and enlightenment to persevere.

How To Be More Optimistic Every Day

How To Be More Optimistic Every Day

November 29, 2022

Michael Kohan 

 

Elevate Life Project:  Mindfulness | Spirituality | Success | Personal Growth

 

Podcast: How To Be More Optimistic Every Day

 

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How To Be More Optimistic Every Day

Are you a “glass half empty” kind of person?

 

Maybe you consider yourself to be a realist, or you think you’re more of a pessimist. Either way, you might find that life gets a little more enjoyable when you can take a more optimistic approach to things.

 

Research suggests that optimists actually enjoy a range of lifestyle and health benefits just because they look on the brighter side.

 

If you’re an optimist, you’re more likely to have better health, both mentally and physically, reduced stress, and more determination to reach your goals.

 

So, how do you be more optimistic? It all starts with approaching life in a positive frame of mind.

 

How to Tackle Life with More Optimism

 

We can all have moments where we feel down in the dumps about something. You might have a bad night’s sleep and suddenly struggle to see anything in a positive light. Maybe a negative experience at work has given you a sour taste in your mouth.

 

However, when pessimism takes over everything you do, it’s hard to find the joy in life.

 

While you don’t have to be happy-go-lucky all the time, you can take steps to actively increase the amount of optimism you bring into your world.

 

For instance:

 

  1. Give yourself more credit. How often do you sell yourself short? When something goes right in your world, do you admit it’s because of something that you’ve done, or do you assume it has nothing to do with you?

    • When something good happens, take a minute to stop and analyze your thought process. Ensure that you give yourself credit for making that positive thing happen.

    • Avoid undermining yourself by saying that you had a lot of help from others or suggesting that anyone in the same situation could do the same thing. Instead, own the fact that you’ve accomplished something and allow yourself to be happy about it.
  2. Give yourself a break. We can often be our own worst critics. Unfortunately, this makes it quite difficult to live a life based around optimism. If you constantly beat yourself up for making mistakes, take a moment to think about how this is affecting you.
    • Ignoring the bad things that happen in your life is never a good idea. Burying your head in the sand can make issues more significant. At the same time, failing to understand the negative could mean you’re doomed to repeat the same mistakes.

    • However, that doesn’t mean you should dwell on the bad things or make yourself feel terrible for what you’ve done.
    • Instead, remind yourself that you’re a human being, and like anyone else, you make mistakes. You don’t have to be perfect all the time (that would be unrealistic). Give yourself a break and remind yourself to learn and do better in future.
  3. Surround yourself with positive people. Finally, one of the best ways to become more optimistic is to surround yourself with those who already look on the bright side of things.
    • Sometimes it takes practice and training for you to reach a point where you can start looking at things from a different perspective.

    • When you surround yourself with positive people, you can pay attention to the way they look at things and learn from their approach to the world. Optimistic people help you to become more positive yourself by giving you a model to emulate.
    • Plus, you’ll often find that positive people can be wonderful cheerleaders when you’re trying to make positive changes in your life. They’re always there to support you and give you credit when you’re struggling to take it yourself.

 

It’s Time to Be More Optimistic

 

The key to optimism is to maximize your focus on the things you do well and the good experiences you have in life. At the same time, it sometimes helps to minimize your failures or at least prevent them from taking over your perspective.

 

Being optimistic doesn’t have to mean ignoring the bleaker parts of life, but it does force you to let more positivity get through.

 

Examining your shortcomings and mistakes will allow you to overcome challenges and achieve more in the long-term. However, it can’t help to give yourself a pat on the back for the things you do right too.

 

The more you practice challenging your thought patterns with the quest to become more optimistic, the more automatic the experience will become.

 

You can start by focusing on developing optimistic habits gradually. Eventually, you’ll get to a point where you can accept both the positive and the negative parts of your life. Seeing more of the positive will help you to become more optimistic as you enjoy its many benefits.

Unproductie Why we get stuck, and what we can do about it

Unproductie Why we get stuck, and what we can do about it

November 27, 2022

Michael Kohan 

 

Elevate Life Project:  Mindfulness | Spirituality | Success | Personal Growth

 

Podcast: Unproductie Why we get stuck, and what we can do about it

 

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The Importance of Looking to the Future Rather than Dwelling on the Past

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November 22, 2022

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7 Ways to Overcome the Fear of Being Judged

7 Ways to Overcome the Fear of Being Judged

November 15, 2022

Michael Kohan 

 

Elevate Life Project:  Mindfulness | Spirituality | Success | Personal Growth

 

Podcast: 7 Ways to Overcome the Fear of Being Judged

 

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7 Ways to Overcome the Fear of Being Judged

 

Fearing what others think about us is a huge fear for most people. We consider how people will view our house, car, clothes, career, and vacation photos on social media. It’s questionable how many people are actually living an authentic life versus trying to impress their peers.

 

This is a trap.

 

At the end of the day, living a life with the primary intention of impressing others will leave you feeling empty and angry.

 

The best way to avoid the temptation to impress others is to overcome the fear of being judged.

Live life on your own terms with these strategies:

 

  1. Avoid judging others. You assume that the things that you do and think about are the same things other people do and think about, but that’s not always true. You’ll be less prone to worrying about being judged if you stop judging others.

  2. Deal with your inner critic. We wouldn’t be worried about other people judging us if we didn’t think about it. While the thoughts that pop into your mind are beyond your control, you do have the power to redirect your attention to more useful and supportive thoughts.
    • Catch yourself when you have a negative thought and think about something more positive, instead.

  3. Remove the people in your life that judge you. This might seem harsh, but why in the world would you want someone like that in your life? Have a chat with them and explain that you’re done tolerating their behavior. If they refuse to change, or can’t change, let them go.
  4. Avoid making comparisons to other people. Everyone is different. It’s impossible to make any comparisons to others that are 100% fair. You’re either being too kind to yourself or too hard on yourself.
    • It’s easier and more meaningful to just compare yourself today to yourself in the past. If you’re making progress, you’re doing very well.

  5. Remember that it’s not really about you. People that judge you have issues.
    • They might be jealous.

    • They might be upset that your success is highlighting their lack of success.
    • They might be seeking attention.
    • They might just be unkind in general.
    • Regardless of their reason for judging you, ignore them and move on.
  6. Be a savage. You might feel weak and fragile, but you’re not. Your ancestors were tough. They were savages compared to the average person today. You come from people that survived wars, plagues, droughts, and had to perform a lot of miserable manual labor. You’re tougher at your core than you think.
  7. You’re always going to be judged regardless of what you do. No matter what pair of shoes you wear, some people will love them, and others will hate them. Every single thing you do and say will be appreciated by some and scorned by others. It’s a game you can’t win, so it will benefit you to refuse to play it.
    • Just do what you feel is best. You’re going to be judged either way.

    • If you stay home and do nothing, everyone will think you’re a lazy bum. There’s no escape.

 

The fear of being judged can be crippling to your happiness and sense of fulfillment. Everyone is going to judge you, but it doesn’t matter. The opinions of 99% of the people you know are completely irrelevant.

 

Instead of worrying about what others think, spend your time creating and building your life. Overcome your fear of being judged and live on your own terms. It’s the only way to live.

 

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How to Reduce Procrastination

How to Reduce Procrastination

November 10, 2022

Michael Kohan 

 

Elevate Life Project:  Mindfulness | Spirituality | Success | Personal Growth

 

Podcast: How to Reduce Procrastination

 

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How to Reduce Procrastination

 

Procrastination isn't just a symptom; it's a condition. It tends to develop over time and can also lead to other issues. If you procrastinate, you may want to stop and ask yourself what exactly it is that you are "putting off" and if it is even worth it.

 

If you accept that procrastination is more than just an annoyance, you can begin to deal with the habit and develop more effective ways to manage your time.

 

The biggest key to conquering procrastination is realizing what you are doing when you procrastinate.

 

Some people ask themselves, "Why am I procrastinating?" Perhaps it's to make themselves feel like they're accomplishing something. Or maybe it's a coping mechanism, a way to divert attention from something unpleasant or painful.

 

So how can you reduce procrastination and regain control of your time? Try these tips:

 

  1. Identify the habit. You might find that your procrastination stems from re-prioritizing your workload. A person who delays an essential task for good reasons is not procrastinating.

 

  • On the other hand, procrastination is the issue if you never get back to completing these necessary tasks or keep focusing on other functions to avoid the important ones.

 

  • You can tell that you're procrastinating if you do some of the following things: You make sure to fill your day with tasks that aren't urgent. Or you spend time reading the same emails several times a day with no decision on how to act on them.

 

  • You're also procrastinating if you begin an urgent task but then wander off to grab a cup of coffee. In that situation, you know it's procrastination when you never get back to finish it.

 

  1. Just start working. A sure way to procrastinate is to spend too much time deciding whether or not to take action. Instead of debating, take action and get the work finished. You'll only regret not doing it if you let it slide.

 

  • The reason this tip is so practical is in how it helps you take the first step. The first step is usually the hardest. Once you've taken it, the rest becomes more straightforward.

 

  • If you had to push a car, for example, you'd find that the most challenging step is getting the vehicle to move, but it gets much more manageable once you manage to do that. Apply the same principle to your work.

 

  • Even if it's small, take the first step toward what you want to get done. It doesn't have to be the most significant step you've ever taken – just get the ball rolling, and you'll gain momentum.

 

  1. Avoid assuming that willpower is the answer. The temptation to procrastinate can come from within you, but it's also the result of your environment. In an environment in which you don't feel supported, you don't feel welcomed.

 

  • In that environment, you don't fully realize your intentions. Ask yourself, “What do I need to achieve my goals?” Then make a list of the steps you need to take to achieve those goals.

 

  • Once you've figured out the steps, get started taking those steps, one step at a time. One step leads to another, and another, and soon you're moving in the direction of your goals. Many people assume that willpower is enough.

 

  • But willpower -- one type of motivation -- is like fuel to a car. The issue with relying on willpower is that you can only use it before you feel completely wiped out.

 

  • In addition, once your willpower runs out, it's challenging to find the motivation to start back up again. That's why it's so important to think about your goals and plan the steps you need to take to achieve those goals.

 

  • Then take those steps without focusing on the unpleasant aspects of the task.

 

You can link procrastination to a lack of motivation. If you become preoccupied with your own goals, you're less susceptible to procrastination. That's why it's always a good idea to set goals that motivate you.

 

It's also a good idea to plan. Planning can reduce the need for willpower. It's already challenging to use willpower to get a task done, so planning can make it easier. Just as you have to eradicate procrastination to be more productive, many factors contribute to your success.

 

Also, remember that there's no shame in asking for help. Many people procrastinate simply because they're afraid to ask for help. Talk to your friends, family, or coworkers if you need help and get the help you need to finish the task.

5 Habits to Break Today to Make Tomorrow Better

5 Habits to Break Today to Make Tomorrow Better

November 8, 2022

Michael Kohan 

 

Elevate Life Project:  Mindfulness | Spirituality | Success | Personal Growth

 

Podcast: 5 Habits to Break Today to Make Tomorrow Better

 

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5 Habits to Break Today to Make Tomorrow Better

 

Habits are interesting things: they start as one-time events, and before you know what's happening, you have already formed them. Without these habits, many things in our lives would be excessively time-consuming.

 

Our body starts habits to prevent us from thinking about every little step every single time. So habits can be good or bad, and once you form one, it is hard to stop.

 

A habit can lessen your problems, or it can cause more. The habits that you form today can lead to a good or a bad tomorrow. It all depends on which habits you choose to develop.

 

For example, you can choose to procrastinate, which leads to more stress in the long run. Or you can choose to do things efficiently, which will decrease your stress and increase productivity. You have control over your habits.

 

So, what current habits should you break right away if you truly want to make tomorrow better? Here are a few examples:

 

  1. Stress eating. Stress eating involves eating unhealthy snacks or meals when you're stressed out. If you eat like this regularly, you're probably not eating as nutritiously as you should.

 

  • And most of the time, it's not as if you're intentionally eating this way. You do this because you feel stressed out, so you eat. You don't have to. Breaking the habit of stress eating may be challenging, but it's essential to do so.

 

  1. The habit of sitting for too long at a time. It can seem challenging to find the time to do anything these days. But it's crucial to make time to exercise. Exercise can help you feel your best throughout the day, and it's a great way to cope with stress.

 

  • You might think it's okay to sit down for hours on end, especially when you have a lot on your to-do list. But it's important to get up and move around now and then. Moving around helps boost your metabolism, which can help prevent weight gain and reduce stress.

 

  1. Hitting snooze on your alarm clock. No one likes waking up in the morning. But anyone who wakes up is happy to do it finally. The difference between the high achievers and the rest of us is that the latter hit the snooze button on their alarm clock.

 

  • Hitting snooze also makes it easy to fall back asleep and push back time on essential activities. This habit can affect your mood and makes it difficult to perform at your peak during the day.

 

  • The thing with sleep is, the more sleep-deprived you are, the less productive you'll be. That is because sleep revitalizes your body and your mind, which helps keep you alert and focused.

 

  • That does not mean it's a good idea to hit the snooze button multiple times each morning in an attempt to get more sleep. Do this instead: Go to sleep earlier than usual if you feel you don't have a good rest each night.

 

  1. Spending hours on social media. According to a study, daily social media users spend an average of 2.5 hours on sites like Facebook, Instagram, and Snapchat. The problem here is that social media is often used not to relax but to procrastinate.

 

  • 76% of adults between the ages of 18 and 34 use social media to waste time at work, according to a survey. All that time spent on social media is time lost at work or school.

 

  • Instead of wasting time on social media, use it more productively. Limit your social media activity to no more than 30 minutes a day.

 

  1. Working overtime. According to statistics, the average American adult works 40 hours a week. But the reality is, most of us work for longer than that. When we work overtime, we forfeit family time, sleep and keep our physical and mental health in decline.

 

  • Working overtime also costs us more money because, according to the research, it costs $1,000 a year more to work full time than to work part-time.

 

  • By working less, you can build a more substantial divide between work and the rest of life.

 

If you want to make tomorrow better, it’s important to start with breaking your bad habits. These habits can drain your energy and prevent you from reaching your true potential.

 

If you think you should quit a habit, try quitting for a little while first. This way, if the outcome isn't what you hoped for, then it's easy to go back to your old ways. But if things go well once you break the habit, then there will be no turning back!

5 Tips to Help You Find Your Inner Self

5 Tips to Help You Find Your Inner Self

November 3, 2022

Elevate Life Project:  Mindfulness | Spirituality | Success | Personal Growth

 

Podcast: 5 Tips to Help You Find Your Inner Self

 

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5 Tips to Help You Find Your Inner Self

 

Do you ever feel lost and don’t know who you are anymore? If so, you’re not alone. Many people find themselves in this position in their lives. The good news is that there are ways to find your inner self again.

 

Here are five effective tips to help you find your inner self again:

 

  1. Identify your passions and focus on them. When you know what you’re passionate about, it’s easier to find direction and purpose in your life. If you’re not sure what your passions are, take some time to explore different activities and interests.

 

  • To find your passion, ask yourself what you enjoy doing, what makes you feel fulfilled, and what topics get your attention.

 

  • Once you identify your passions, attempt to focus on them each day. It could mean working on a hobby, pursuing a creative passion, or taking steps to achieve a goal.

 

  • Set small, achievable goals to understand your passions and boost your self-confidence.

 

  1. Each day do an activity that you enjoy. It would be best if you took the time to relax and recharge. If you’re constantly on the go, you’ll eventually burn out. Schedule some “me time” into each day.

 

  • Use this time to do something you enjoy, such as reading, listening to music, taking a bath, or spending time in nature. Taking care of yourself is crucial if you want to find your inner self again.

 

  • Book a spa day, listen to your favorite songs or go roller skating. Identify things that make you feel good and make time for them.

 

  1. Connect with nature. When you’re in nature, it’s easy to feel more connected to your inner thoughts and emotions.

 

  • Take a walk in the park, go for a hike, or sit outside and enjoy the fresh air. You’ll likely find that spending time outdoors helps you relax and clear your mind.

 

  • Spend time outside every day, even if it’s just for a few minutes. If you can, go for a walk in your backyard or take a hike in the woods. These activities will help you feel more connected to nature and yourself.

 

  • Spending time in nature will help you feel more connected to your inner thoughts and emotions. It will also benefit your physical, mental, and emotional health.

 

  1. Spend time with friends and family. Another way to find your inner self is to spend time with people who make you happy. You feel more relaxed and at ease when you’re with loved ones.

 

  • Take the time to reconnect with old friends or plan fun activities with your family. Attempt to surround yourself with positive people who make you feel good about yourself.

 

  • Hanging out with friends can be fun to relax and feel more like yourself again.

 

  • Choose friends that are supportive, positive, and make you laugh. Set dinner dates, go to the movies, or spend time at home.

 

  • Pets can also be supportive companions. If you don’t have any close friends or family nearby, consider getting a pet to help you feel more connected. Cats, dogs, birds, and fish can all make great pets. Consider what type of pet would best fit your lifestyle and home.

 

  1. Cultivate a positive mindset. A final way to find your inner self is to let go of negative thoughts and cultivate a more positive attitude.

 

  • Finding your inner self will be difficult if you always focus on negative thoughts. Attempt to let go of these thoughts and focus on the positive aspects of your life.

 

  • Think about things that make you happy, such as your favorite memories or people in your life.

 

  • You can also try positive affirmations to help shift your mindset. Repeating things like “I am worthy of love and happiness” or “I am strong” can help you believe these things about yourself.

 

  • Focus on the present moment. What is good about this moment? How can you make it meaningful to you?

 

By following these tips, you’ll be on your way to finding your inner self again. Remember to be patient and to enjoy the journey. Don’t give up on yourself. Believe in your ability to find happiness and inner peace.

 

Start each day with positive affirmations, take a long walk, and attempt to work on your passions as much as you can to help you successfully find your inner self.

How and Why Others Try to Hold You Back From Success

How and Why Others Try to Hold You Back From Success

November 1, 2022

Michael Kohan 

 

Elevate Life Project:  Mindfulness | Spirituality | Success | Personal Growth

 

Podcast: How and Why Others Try to Hold You Back From Success

 

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How and Why Others Try to Hold You Back From Success

 

When you’re trying to change your life, there will be people that feel the need to get in your way. A few of them might actually believe they’re trying to help you, but they’re not. They want you to stay just the way you are. That way, they can feel comfortable about not improving themselves, too.

 

It’s frustrating to find out that few people are on your side, but it’s something that must be managed if you want to succeed.

 

See how others may try to derail your success:

 

  1. They point out your past failures. We’ve all failed numerous times in the past. Some people in your life will undoubtedly bring up those failures in an attempt to sabotage your efforts.

    • Suppose you decide you want to climb all the 14,000-foot+ peaks in the US. You might be reminded by a “friend” that you couldn’t even climb the 2,000-foot peak at summer camp. They might even suggest that you come up with a more reasonable goal.

  2. They will try to make you feel guilty. Guilt is another weapon. Sticking with our mountain climbing theme, you might be told that all that travel is expensive. You might also be told that you should be saving all the money for your child’s college education. Or maybe you should spend all that time with your family instead.
  3. They try to distract you. “Hey, forget the mountains. Let’s all go on a big vacation together instead.”

These are just a few of the less devious ways those around you might try to sabotage your efforts. But why would they do it in the first place? It doesn’t seem kind and supportive, and it’s not. Though they might try to present it that way.

 

There are several reasons why people close to you try to sabotage your efforts:

  1. They want to stay comfortable with their mediocrity. If you do something amazing, they have to deal with the fact that they have not. No one wants to feel like they’re losing the game of life. Rather than deal with their own fear, insecurity, and laziness, it’s just easier and less work to hold you back.

  2. While there are some people that are genuinely happy to see you achieve something great, win the lottery, or lose 50 pounds, there are even more that are jealous. They’ll try to stop you from being successful. And if that doesn’t work, they’ll attempt to diminish the value of your success.
    • For example, “Oh, if I had all of your free time, I could easily lose 50 pounds, too.”

  3. People don’t like change. Everyone is getting something from you. If they got nothing out of their relationship with you, they wouldn’t associate with you at all. If you change, it threatens the status quo. If you become something different, where does that leave them?
    • It’s psychologically easier for them if you just stay the same.

The solution is to commit to being successful in spite of the objections of others. You might want to consider removing the worst offenders from your life. Life is hard enough without having your own friends and family trying to make it even harder.

 

Commit to your goals for the right reason. Impressing others is a shallow reason for doing something. Do it for yourself.

 

Consider keeping your big goals to yourself. You receive less resistance from others. Choose what’s best for your life and do it! You don’t need the approval of others.

Top 10 Ways to Learn More About Yourself

Top 10 Ways to Learn More About Yourself

October 27, 2022

Michael Kohan 

 

Elevate Life Project:  Mindfulness | Spirituality | Success | Personal Growth

 

Podcast: Top 10 Ways to Learn More About Yourself

 

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Top 10 Ways to Learn More About Yourself

 

You spend every minute with yourself, but you don’t know yourself as well as you think. You love to deceive yourself, whether you realize it or not. As they say, “You can’t handle the truth.”

 

Unfortunately, if you don’t know yourself, it’s hard to make progress. It’s like driving a car that doesn’t run well, but you refuse to look under the hood. There are issues under your hood that are in your way!

 

Try these techniques to get to know yourself better:

 

  1. Take a personality test. There are plenty of tests available online. Some are better than others, so be sure to do some research. The more sophisticated and useful tests aren’t free, but you’re worth it!

  2. List your values. What matters to you? What do you stand for? Make a list of your values and put them in order of which are most important to you. Do you live your life according to your values?
    • Imagine you’re an acquaintance of yours. How would you order your values based on your words and actions?

  3. Whom do you admire? Who are the people you admire the most? Why do you admire them? What character traits and skills do you admire in others? What you admire in others says a lot about you.
  4. Whom do you despise and why? Just as informative are the people you strongly dislike. Why do you dislike them? What exactly about them is it that you dislike? Do you see any of those traits in yourself?
  5. Ask your friends and family for input. Your friends and family know more about you than you think. They definitely know a thing or two about you that you don’t know. Ask them for assistance in learning more about yourself. Be prepared to be surprised.
  6. Imagine watching yourself. Imagine observing yourself for a day. Imagine watching yourself eat. Imagine seeing yourself in your typical clothing. Note how you interact with others.
    • You don’t appear to others the way you think you do. This is a chance to see what everyone else sees. If possible, consider setting up a video camera.

  7. If you could be granted one wish, what would it be? Imagine being given a wish. What would you do with it? What can you infer from that?
    • Wishing for a billion dollars is different from wishing for world peace. Wishing for a loving spouse is different from wishing for the ability to fly or for a new sports car.

    • Your answer will tell you a lot about what’s most important to you.
  8. What do you believe is the meaning of life? If you had to sum up the meaning of life in one sentence, what would it be? How did you come to that decision?
  9. What is your biggest regret? What is the one thing you wish you could go back in time and do over? Why do you regret it so much? How would your life be different if you could redo a few decisions?
  10. What makes you anxious? What causes you stress? What makes you worry? Why do these things upset you? What does your anxiety cost you? How does it limit you? How would your life change if you felt much less anxiety?

 

Knowing yourself is a great challenge. You’ve probably never seriously considered why you think and behave the way you do. We spend a lot of time contemplating people and situations outside of ourselves, but little time investigating ourselves.

 

If you knew yourself better, you could make a few adjustments and enjoy an easier and more successful life. You’d also be in a better position to deal with old emotional wounds.

 

Be courageous and take a long, hard look at yourself. Getting to know yourself is challenging, but in the long run, you’ll find that it’s worth the effort.

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